The 7 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

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Sexual fantasies. Everyone has them. Yes, EVERYONE. Sexual fantasies sometimes push our limits of our sexuality – or – perhaps allow us to venture into lands much kinkier than we would normally roam. Sometimes sexual fantasies are just that: fantasies. However, sometimes those fantasies become a reality when we allow ourselves to be open about them with our partners.

Whether your fantasy will stay your hot little secret or not is up to you – but the most important thing to remember is, they are healthy and good for your sexual soul. Here are 7 of the most common sexual fantasies people have.

1. Threesomes (& Other Multi-Partner Sex)

You knew it was coming, right? Threesomes are by far the most common sexual fantasy out there. It's also common to take it a step further and daydream of an orgy or any kind of group sex. Multi-partner sex basically just means you're having sex with more than one person of the same or different genders.

If those Game of Thrones scenes are getting you going, then maybe it's time to start thinking about trying multi-partner sex. If you're single, go ahead and try it out . If you've got a partner, make sure to bring this up to them so they have time to process and think about it on their end before the two of you dive into any new sexual adventures.

2. Sex W/ The Same Sex (Homoeroticism)

A very common sexual fantasy is having sex with someone of the same sex, which is technically called homoeroticism. This is often times experienced by people who fall under the "heterosexual" category, so don't go making any assumptions here. Remember that a sexual desire that someone has does not in any way define or set in stone their sexual identity. You can consider yourself to be "straight" and still have the desire to have sex with someone who has the same type of sexual parts that you do. This is a very sexy fantasy that many people have and can easily be played out.

3. Exhibitionism & Voyeurism

The idea behind both exhibitionism and voyeurism is that they both have this forbidden aspect to them, in fact some scenarios are both literally illegal so you won't actually be able to act on this fantasy.

Exhibitionism is the act of becoming aroused by others consensually watching you have sex or by exposing parts of your body to unsuspecting participants. While voyeurism is watching people engage sexually without their knowledge or consent. So, we cannot and do not recommend playing out these fantasies as it is illegal to do without consent.

However, you can find other ways of creating a similar feeling. If available near you, you can go to a sex club with your partner and consensually watch others have sex. Or, watch you and your partner have sex in front of a mirror. The key here is consent.

4. Dominant Sex & BDSM

This one is for those of you who want to have power and control in the bedroom. Before I go further, I do want to say that all rough sex play must be consensual with your partner. But as long as your partner is in, you can totally lean into any part of your BDSM desires. BDSM meaning Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Submission and Masochism (Masochism is when you get sexual pleasure from receiving pain or harm from the hands of another person).

There are two ends of this, you might be the one who is craving to be in charge and tell your partner what they have to do. Or, you could be on the other end and be craving someone to control you and your every move. Either way, this is a very common fantasy that definitely can be played out if you bring it up to your partner. You don't have to start out anywhere too overwhelming, maybe just start by bringing in a blindfold or a whip.

5. Non-Monogamy

Imagining being a non-monogamous relationship where you have consent from your partner to have steamy sex with other people can be insanely hot. This can include imagining an open-relationship, polyamory or even swinging with other couples.

This can be flip-flopped the other way too though, you may fantasize about your partner being with other people sexually. This is where cuckholding comes in - which is having the fantasy of your partner having sex with another but only if you can watch it happen or hear about it after. I personally know plenty of people in open-relationships who get extremely turned on when their partner comes home with a new sex story to share.

6. Public Sex

This is another one that before I even dive into it, I have to make sure you know it is illegal and therefore we don't condone it. However, having sex in a public space is an extremely common fantasy for many people. There is something really sexy about doing dirty things with someone and being at a very high risk of getting caught (which is also why it's illegal). If this is your thing, go for it but again we aren't condoning any illegal activities.

7. Roleplay

Alright, we're ending it with a bang - roleplay! If you've read the list of the other 6 common fantasies and have been like "nope, not me!" then I bet I got you with this one. Most people at some point in their lives have had some kind of roleplay fantasy - your teacher took you to the office for a spanking, the babysitter seduced you, etc. When you take part in roleplay, you are assuming the identity of another person and that can be so so sexy. Roleplay is actually a great way for you to act out any of the other fantasies in this blog. Maybe you won't ever actually do it, but you can act it out with your partner.

Click Here to Learn About 21 Roleplay Scenarios to Try Tonight!

What Is Your Fantasy? Let Us Know With An Anonymous Comment Below!

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  • Nasty Nate

    My fantasy is my wife being gangbanged or being in a glory hole room with multiple huge dicks fir her to fuck n suck

  • Karl Watson

    My ultimate fantasy sharing a man’s wife as she gives me a blow job I never had one and second things is titsex until cummins on boobs and face

  • SWP1970

    Im straight but also have a same sex fantasy. I have thought about it for a long time but have never acted on it.
    I also have a strap on fantasy. I would love it if my girlfriend would use one on me.

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