How to Rub Her Clit WITHOUT Using Tongue

As a woman I have a confession to make: while I love oral sex, I really wish some of you would figure out that there are OTHER ways to play with our clits besides oral sex. Yeah, I know you do the gratuitous fingering every so often, but that primarily is internal, and usually during oral sex. No, I am talking about really spending some time using different parts of your body to ramp up her horny level by exploring the clit!

You do know that the clit is a big, bundle of nerves, right? That means, when you touch it gently, teasing it, the build up we experience is amazing! So, before you go down on your partner again, read these tried and true tips to make her wild for you. Here are 6 ways for you to rub the clit without using that tongue of yours!

1. Round Robin Rubbin'

One thing that women love (and I know, I have talked to thousands of them on this) is when you gently rub our clit in circles using just one finger. The best way to do this is to lay next to her, kiss her passionately (or perhaps nibble her nipples too) and use just one, solitary finger to gently rub circles around her clit. When her hips start to buck you know you are doing it right! Just remember, slow and steady wins the race – gentle, slow circles will drive her crazy!

2. The Two Fingered Squeeze

Most of the time the clitoris is hidden by a little “hood” of skin aptly called “the clitoral hood.” When you begin licking or touching this area, the clitoris will swell and poke itself out from under the hood in a very blatant attempt at receiving more attention.

So, while you are down there admiring your partner’s nether region, take 2 fingers (index and middle) and rub on either side of her clitoris, gently moving the skin around her clit away. Then, very gently, start to rub her clit with your other fingers (other hand) in tiny circle as above. This double sensation will drive her mad – and make her VERY wet!

Who says the only body part that can touch the clit are the fingers and tongue? NOT ME! I believe that we can use any part of our body to tempt and tease each other! One thing that is very satisfying is when lovers are laying side by side, naked, kissing, and fondling. From there, you can put your thigh between her legs, having her straddle you, and gently pushing yourself back and forth upon her.

Alternating the pressure of your body and changing up the fabric between the two of you when they're naked (hello silk?!) can also be equally as stimulating when rubbing back and forth! It won’t take long before she is sliding her body all around your legs and bucking for more sensations!

4. Playful Pulling

Have you ever pulled on your lover’s vaginal lips? Gently, pulling (or sucking during oral) her lovely lady lips lovingly? Well you SHOULD! Not only should you pull on her lips but you should gently pull (or pinch) her clitoris too!

This is something that may be a completely new sensation for her. What you do is get her clitoris out from under the clitoral hood by doing any of the above referenced moves, then gently grab it from both sides between your fingers and pull it gently. Then, release it and go about other things. Rinse and repeat!

5. Tapping & Thumping

Have you ever watched an adult film and observed the male actor “thumping” his penis head on the woman’s clitoris before entering her? Guess what – WE LOVE THIS! After we have been all revved up by all of your foreplay activities, when you are about to enter us, take a few minutes to tease us with your penis head!

Hold your penis in your hands and ‘thump’ the head of it on our clit. You can spread us open a bit (or ask us to, that is super hot) and rub your penis all around our vaginal opening, putting in a few pats on our clit for good measure!

Or, as a method of foreplay, some women (me included) love a gentle “tap” to our clitoris! When we are all aroused nothing can feel better than a slight tap or slap even, on our clits! Of course as with anything, make sure she likes this sort of play. If she does, see how gentle or hard she may like it!

6. Ladies Choice

If you truly want to know what feels good for your woman, it's as simple as asking her to show you! We women have been sexually satisfying ourselves for a long, long time and we know what we like! All women are NOT built the same! Some may like small circles, others may want touching AROUND but not ON the clit. Some women even may want a little slapping.

Ask her to masturbate for you (or pay attention when she is touching herself) and see exactly what she likes and then try it for yourself! The best way to satisfy her is to have her show you what she likes. Also, you can do the same for her when it is YOUR turn!