How to Masturbate With Your Fingers: 10 Techniques For Anyone With a Vagina

Masturbating With Your Fingers: 10 Techniques for Vagina Owners

Most people masturbate in the same way every time with little or no variation. Once you’ve found a method that works for you, you use it all the time knowing you’ll get the desired outcome. However, there is more than one way to masturbate without sex toys. For people with a vagina, many assume an orgasm can only be achieved using a vibrator or other miscellaneous sex toy, but the truth is your fingers can be magical when using the right techniques. Whether you are new to masturbation or have been playing for many years, here are 10 tips on how to masturbate with your fingers!

1. Try Your Other Hand

There’s something to be said about the importance of knowing which hand is dominant when it comes to masturbation. Both hands don’t perform the same way, which is why many of us have a go-to when it comes to pleasuring ourselves. Experiment with both hands and different fingers to see what feels the most natural and comfortable for your body! You might find something new that you like as you learn how to masturbate with your fingers.

2. Go Above the Belt

There are many ways to masturbate for people with a vagina, and they shouldn’t all be about your genitals. You have many sensitive and erogenous zones all over your body, so why not make your pleasure a full-body experience? Nipple stimulation can help you learn how to orgasm with your fingers in new and exciting ways! Begin above the waist first. Use your fingers to explore your stomach, rib cage, breasts, and nipples. You can tweak and slightly twist your nipples, pull on them gently, or just rub them under your fingertips. Reach upward and cup your breasts as if you’re being felt up by your lover! The anticipation this creates will make reaching your orgasm quicker and more intense!

3. Play with Your Labia

When most people with vaginas think about how to masturbate with fingers or toys, they focus on their clit. But what about vaginal lips? The inner and outer lips carry their own nerve endings, and exploring them can be extremely pleasurable. One way is by running your fingers up and down your outer lips, perhaps squeezing them a bit between your fingertips. Pull the inner lips gently and then a little more vigorously. Just simply pulling on the lips activates the lubrication glands and increases arousal. Take advantage of this natural lubrication during internal stimulation!

4. Don’t Forget Your Clitoris

If you’ve got a clitoris, it’s definitely an important focus when considering how to masturbate with your fingers! Instead of rubbing your clit in the same manner you’re used to, change it up a bit. If you usually rub in circles, try a slow up and down motion.

Or, if you feel a little more daring, another way to masturbate is spreading the vaginal lips and tapping them lightly with your fingertips, gradually picking up speed as you get more aroused. Vary speed and pressure to see what builds you up. Maybe even use your opposite hand for a completely different sensation in unison! If you're looking for some intense clit stimulation as well as wondering how to masturbate with your fingers, use one of our arousal creams, like the Water Based Tingling Lube shown below, to give your clit the tingling or warming sensations you need for an amazing orgasm!

Image depicts TooTimid Water-Based Tingling Lube

5. Experiment with Penetration

Fingers do not have to be used only for external massages—you can also use them for internal stimulation! If you have a vagina, one popular way to masturbate is by penetration with one or more fingers. Do whatever feels good to you at a speed and depth that you find personally pleasing! Some people can experience G-spot stimulation through internal stimulation via their fingers.

Curious about how to masturbate with your fingers and achieve the fullness of dual stimulation? Insert your middle finger vaginally—with lube if necessary—and use your pointer finger on the same hand to lift slightly and stimulate your clitoris. This can lead to intense blended orgasms without the use of a sex toy. Experiment and see how to pleasure your body to orgasm with your fingers alone!

6. Utilize Your Thumb

For most people, the thumb is the flattest and biggest finger. When used correctly, it can act as a great external stimulator for people with a clitoris. The secret of how to masturbate with a finger like your thumb is taking your hand and pointing it at your clitoris in a “thumbs up” motion. Push the pad of your thumb against your clitoris, applying pressure gradually. This technique allows for pinpoint stimulation on your clit thanks to the flat end of your finger. It can give you the extra “oomf” needed to get aroused. You can also use your thumb as a better base to hit your G-spot during internal stimulation.

7. Reach Back Instead

This tip on how to masturbate with fingers is pretty simple: just reach under or around your waist from the back. You can lay, sit, or stand in any stance that feels comfortable. By doing this, especially when you add internal stimulation, you get a better target for your G-spot if you have a vagina! Wondering how to experience blended orgasm bliss with only your fingers as a person with a clit? Flick and rub your clitoris while incorporating a tingling gel!

8. Explore Anal Stimulation

Are you curious about anal stimulation? Going finger first is the best way to start. Similar to our last tip on how to masturbate with only your fingers, try reaching back and inserting one finger gently into your anus. Make sure to invest in a quality lube, as using a lubricant is a must when it comes to anal. There’s a variety on the market, but we recommend using a silicone based lube as opposed to water-based for this one.

Silicone gives you a slick and smooth entry for a finger. But if you'd like to Water Based Lube shown below, is safe for most sex toy materials but tends to dry up faster, making it unsuitable for anal usually. Comfort and safety are essential with any masturbation technique, since this is supposed to be pleasurable! If you’re a beginner wondering how to masturbate anally with your fingers, we recommend slowly sliding in and out with your finger until you get a rhythm that feels good. Try pushing your finger more towards the front to put pressure on your G-spot!

Image depicts TooTimid Water-Based Lubricant

9. Lay Down on Your Stomach

Some people with vaginas find that lying on your stomach during masturbation can help you achieve orgasm more easily. This may take some exploration and won’t work for everyone, but it’s definitely worth trying!

To try this, lay on your bed or couch on your stomach and use your pleasuring hand to massage your clitoris or provide internal stimulation. This approach puts the pressure of your weight on your uterus and G-spot, which can build up your arousal; you may be shocked how quickly you orgasm with your fingers this way! Another tip on how to masturbate with fingers safely is to make sure your nails are short so you don’t scratch yourself in the process!

10. Bring It All Together

Combining all these moves into one fantastic session is one of the most satisfying ways to use your fingers during masturbation for people with a vagina. Warm up by slowly seducing yourself with some above the belt stimulation and labia massages. Next, concentrate on the clitoris. Vary the play each time by using your fingers to bring yourself to the brink of orgasm before backing off and focusing on another part of your body. See how close you can bring yourself to orgasm with your fingers before you need to stop! When you’re finally ready to go over the brink, do it with the combo of internal and external stimulation.

Do You Prefer Using Fingers Or Toys? Let Us Know Below!

9 comments

Kandi731 Jan 28, 2023

I do both! Either way works and gives different sensations. Love clit stimulating toys and penetration is rarely needed with those. I’m usually done within 5 minutes and feel soooo calm afterwards.
Karen Calloway Jul 25, 2022

I like both, fingers and toys especially for dual orgasm. I don’t have a bunny but definitely will get one! I have heard that they are soon great. Can’t wait. When I am about to orgasm, I spread my legs wide, and put the vibrater inside on the G spot or deeper. It makes me scream and I love it so much. I can’t stop, I want more and more. I keep going and start rubbing my Clit and inserting Dildo and it feels so good, OMGosh. I need this everyday for stress relief and because it feels good. I love to watch sex on TV while masturbating, it really turns me on and gets me excited very quickly. I get wet very quickly and love it. Try it, you will love it immensely. You will want more and more.
Mary Schneider Dec 20, 2020

I start w grabbing & holding & squeezing my lady mound. My clit inside getting excitedI prefer a rabbit and let that start at my vibrating on my nipples mmm to my belly..to near the rabbit hole…those ears drive me crazy..rubbin on my clit & down my crack.
I get wet and need that grinding dildo w those ears and Im hedonistic AF. I LOVEEE laying and that crazy rabbit vibrating & grind massaging my hot pussy….it gets sooo fuxing good. I cum & squirt and have orgasms like never before in 50 yrs. This cougar kitty is purring & needs petted…maybe lick my spot.
I masturbate everyday…keeps me happy🔥
Mary Schneider Dec 20, 2020

I start w grabbing & holding & squeezing my lady mound. My clit inside getting excitedI prefer a rabbit and let that start at my vibrating on my nipples mmm to my belly..to near the rabbit hole…those ears drive me crazy..rubbin on my clit & down my crack.
I get wet and need that grinding dildo w those ears and Im hedonistic AF. I LOVEEE laying and that crazy rabbit vibrating & grind massaging my hot pussy….it gets sooo fuxing good. I cum & squirt and have orgasms like never before in 50 yrs. This cougar kitty is purring & needs petted…maybe lick my spot.
I masturbate everyday…keeps me happy🔥
Mary Schneider Dec 20, 2020

I start w grabbing & holding & squeezing my lady mound. My clit inside getting excitedI prefer a rabbit and let that start at my vibrating on my nipples mmm to my belly..to near the rabbit hole…those ears drive me crazy..rubbin on my clit & down my crack.
I get wet and need that grinding dildo w those ears and Im hedonistic AF. I LOVEEE laying and that crazy rabbit vibrating & grind massaging my hot pussy….it gets sooo fuxing good. I cum & squirt and have orgasms like never before in 50 yrs. This cougar kitty is purring & needs petted…maybe lick my spot.
I masturbate everyday…keeps me happy🔥

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