Should I Watch Porn With My Partner? (5 Reasons the Answer is Yes!)
The infamous and sometimes dreaded question, "Should I watch porn with my partner?" It's time to face this head on. First, I want to say that everyone has their right to their opinion on this topic, but I also want to say that watching porn with your partner can really be an amazing experience for so many reasons.
It is, at the very least, worth bringing it up so you can see where your significant other stands. Below, you will find 5 reasons we think watching porn with a partner is a good idea. You'll also find tips on what to do if you really want to try this and your partner has given you a hard "no". Read on to see what we have to say!
Note: There are many websites these days that offer ethical porn and porn that is more realistic about pleasure. So, if you have an issue with certain websites where you just can't get into the story or you're like "there's no way she just came that fast, that's so unrealistic!" then do some Googling for ethical porn websites or female focused porn sites, I promise there's something out there for you!
1. Chances Are You Both Already Watch It Separately
There often times is a bad stigma tied to porn but in reality porn is completely natural and it isn't something that you should have to keep as a secret. Seriously, chances are that your partner is watching porn on their own already, so why not try it together? I don't mean you should only watch porn with your partner, make sure to keep that special "me time" with yourself too, but watching porn with your partner is a completely different experience that is worth testing out.
Even if you bring it up and your partner doesn't watch porn but instead reads some sexy stories online, then the same reasons I'm explaining apply! You can still explore reading sexy stories together the same way you would explore porn together.
2. It Will Help You Bond & Bring You Closer Together
Watching porn is a very intimate experience, whether you're alone or with a partner. When we watch porn we are being open and honest about our desires. You don't have to hide anything, take watching porn as an opportunity to bring up new desires to your partner and also to learn about desires that they might have been too nervous to bring up to you in the past.
But I also want to say, don't feel like you have to bring everything up at once. You don't have to dive right into the deep end, you can just start by watching something like a massage based porn and go from there. This also brings you closer together, because you've got to communicate your boundaries and you've got to respect one another's boundaries.
3. It Can Lead To Honest & Necessary Conversations
Following up with the last section, sometimes watching porn together can lead to a serious conversation if you're bringing up deep desires. And by conversation, I mean a calm and respectful conversation. I do understand that for some, watching porn with their partner can lead to jealousy but it's really important to not get into that mindset. Your partner has desires and needs, but I can promise you that they want to experiment all of that with you ... not the random person in the porno.
Now that that's out of the way, back to the honest conversation. Watching porn together is an amazing way to bring up a desire that you haven't brought up before. You can start by pulling up a video of something you've been thinking about and casually let your partner know you're into it by saying something like "I think this is really hot, what do you think about it?" And then based on how they react to that question, you can take the conversation further from there.
4. You Can Learn New, Sexy Things Together
When you watch porn with your partner, you are entering a whole new world of possibilities. Watching porn can be an educational experience, I know that sounds weird but I mean it. There are so many different types and varieties of porn out there. There is everything you can think of, plus about a million other things you've probably never even heard of or thought of trying.
When you're watching porn together, maybe you'll come across a new sex position you want to try. Or, maybe you'll see a technique someone is using that looks like it would feel insanely good. Let your partner know when something turns on you and jot it down or save it as a bookmark in your browser so you can return to it together later.
5. It Can Lead To Some Really Hot Sex
For the most part, if we are watching porn on our own - it is probably for masturbation reasons and we are looking to have an orgasm. So, if you're spending time sitting with your partner watching porn, chances are both of you are going to be incredibly turned on. Just watching how turned on your partner gets is going to be a huge turn on for you.
Not only are you going to be turned on, but like I said earlier you're also going to be getting some new ideas along the way. So why not go right for it and start trying a few of those ideas right away?
What If They Turn Down Watching Porn Together?
You should never force someone to do something that they do not want to. If your partner is adamant about not watching, try to discern why they don't want to watch in a respectful way. Communication is always the best route to follow. I suggest the following steps:
First, assure them that you're attracted to them, excited by them, and that watching the feature is for both of you to get aroused and maybe find some new ideas. Being sensitive to your partner's reasons for not wanting to watch is important. I suggest being open about wanting to watch and suggest they help you pick out a movie. If they're included in the process, they just may find it to be exciting and a good bonding experience.
Second, if you have watched an adult movie with your lover and they were embarrassed, closed their eyes, walked out of the room, or simply said it was “gross” and “obscene” – then it might be time to suggest an educational video. These feature real couples, in real scenarios – having sex – but under the guise of learning about new techniques. They are not as graphic as most pornos but are arousing as well as informative.
Third, if your partner states that they would be willing to watch a video but that they were nervous about it – assure them that you will understand if they don't like it. Give your partner the option to stop watching. Make it a fun and entertaining event where the two of you laugh and joke as you are watching. This indicates to your partner that you are not taking it so seriously – and they might just relax enough to actually become aroused.
How do you find sexy things to watch?
I’ve tried watching porn with my Ole man , he knows what turns me off and that’s all he wants to watch. We end up fighting. I’ve even suffered thur it only not to enjoy myself at all
My ex husband and I used to watch porn. It just lead to him being overly aggressive and abusive. He felt if they did it he could. Well that’s why he is an ex. A boyfriend after that wanted to always act out scenes that he had watched. Again some ok and some not. He also liked to video our sex. Recently my current fiancé ran across a short clip of one of our videos. He wants to watch the longer version. He says it’s like porn. He doesn’t force me but I wonder should we watch it together?
Older couples should watch porn films too!
Hi! I have watched good, well-acted softcore porn and some really ridiculous porn films. It is stimulating and helps the imagination with your partner. I have a vivid imagination anyway, always have. I think women can try watching the better porn films out there and just skip the bad ones. I have also seen some hard core films,but some of them look fake to me.
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