All About Edging: What Is It & How To Do It

If you've been struggling to achieve orgasm, been experiencing erectile dysfunction, experiencing premature ejaculation or you simply want to have stronger orgasms than you're currently experiencing - then you are in the right place. You might have heard about something called edging or orgasm control before, but maybe you're nervous to try it or you're not sure how to go about it. Well, don't worry, because we've got you covered with this guide about what edging is, why to do it and how to do it. Read on for more information.

NOTE: You should never, ever be withholding someone else's orgasm without their consent. Here at TooTimid, we do not condone any sexual acts without getting a person's verbal consent first and foremost.

What Is Edging?

To put it plainly, edging is an orgasm control technique. Typically a solo act but it can be done with a partner, when a person stimulates themselves sexually but slows or momentarily stops masturbating just before reaching orgasm. They will then resume masturbating, continuing this process of reaching the “edge” of orgasm, holding off for as long as possible before experiencing an intense climax. Edging may be known simply as orgasm control or by fun other names like “surfing,” or, “peaking.

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Is It Bad For You?

There is a misconception out there that playing with orgasm control can be bad for you, but in reality, as long as you're not taking it to a very, very extreme level then - it is not harmful. It is actually quite beneficial for you, keep reading and I'll tell you why.

The 6 Benefits of Edging

• Control

The ability to control your own orgasmic release is a serious skill! Imagine the sexual experiences you can enjoy when you have the power to keep going! You will gain the knowledge of knowing exactly when you are going to orgasm, and manipulate yourself to hold off. You can have long-lasting pleasure and simultaneous orgasms with your partner. Talk about intimacy!

• Intense Orgasms

The more you build up sexual tension and continue to reach and retreat from the edge, the more explosive your orgasms will be! Think about it as a big tease. You get to learn all about how your body handles pleasure and end with a BANG!

• Makes It Easier To Achieve Orgasm

If you're spending time edging and playing with orgasm control, then you are taking time to seriously get to know every inch of your body and exactly what type of touch brings you pleasure. So, if you have anxiety about achieving an orgasm, this will help you because the more you get to know your body and what arouses you - the more comfortable you will be with sexual experiences and reaching that orgasm.

• Premature Ejaculation (PE) Management

Those who are experiencing premature ejaculation may find that edging helps to minimize these symptoms. Some can even overcome mild to moderate premature ejaculation by learning about (and feeling) their point of no return (PONR). The more familiar you become with your body’s reactions to certain strokes, pressure, etc., the more you can discipline yourself.

• Erectile Dysfunction (ED) Management

We’ve discussed the many causes and solutions for ED, but when it comes down to it, one of the main factors for ED is your blood. Blood flow, to be exact. For whatever reason, your blood flow is being blocked from filling the penis and making (or keeping) it erect. Edging increases blood flow to your penis, by sustaining your erection for longer periods of time. This enriches the penile tissues and increases healthy blood flow.

• Improved Kegel Strength

By combining the sensational understanding of edging, and the muscle vitality you gain with Kegel (pelvic floor) exercises, you will be unstoppable! Or, very stoppable! You will increase your arousal and orgasm manipulation by feeling your PONR and have strengthened pelvic muscles to stop your impending ejaculation. Or use them to push through a powerful O. For men, this combo is sometimes called “Ballooning,” where you continually push more blood into your penis to increase resilience and, in some cases, size.

How To Experiment With Edging

• Start Solo

Edging can be done during intercourse or masturbation, but it’s always best to start solo when you're first getting into it. This way you’ll be able to get a sense of how you become aroused, locate your special spots, and feel when your body is ready for release. This is about your control after all.

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• Set The Mood & Get Turned On

This part is pretty self-explanatory, here you want to do whatever you usually do when you're masturbating to get yourself turned on. If that means you have to turn on some music and light some candles first, do that. Then start visualizing whatever it is that starts your arousal process, and start playing with yourself until you are hard or wet.

• Start Playing With Yourself

• When You Get Close To An Orgasm, Withold

Before you hit your P.O.N.R. (point of no return) but when you feel you are very close to orgasm, you'll want to stop all stimulation completely. Basically, you want to bring yourself to the brink of orgasm, and then reduce the stimulation. This often requires practice! It might take time to learn all the signs, but hey, you still get to orgasm. Remember to take it slow - if you move too quickly, it will be very difficult to avoid the P.O.N.R. and continue!

Pro Tip: If you have a penis, when you're at the point when you are trying to withhold your orgasm - it can be helpful to squeeze the head of your penis to prevent ejaculation.

• Start Focusing On What Got You Turned On, Again

After you've completely stopped pleasuring yourself, it can be for as little as a 30-second break, you'll want to go back to what you did in Step 3. Get yourself turned on again, and get those juices flowing. Notice how you feel here. Are there any changes in your body like more sweating or deeper breathing?

• Start Playing With Yourself, Again

And now it's time to repeat Step 4, start fully masturbating again. This time you might even want to go faster or use harder pressure if that's what makes you cum. Keep doing this until you are ready for your orgasm.

• Release The Orgasm

The moment we've all been waiting for, it's time to let go of your orgasm! Allow yourself to follow embrace and experience this orgasm. Be aware of how it feels, you might notice that your orgasm is longer or more intense.

How Do I Know When To Stop Edging & Release My Orgasm?

This is honestly up to you, especially if you are practicing edging on your own. You can go through the steps above just once or you can do it three times, just let yourself release your orgasm whenever it feels right.

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If you are practicing edging with a partner, the same thing goes. They can really practice it however long they are comfortable with. Just make sure that you guys are communicating with one another or you have come up with a safe word ahead of time. If they want that orgasm, let them have it. It is their decision when they want to orgasm, so keep that in mind. Otherwise you are going to be withholding their orgasm from them without their consent. 

Have You Ever Experimented With Orgasm Control? Let Us Know Below In The Comments!