The Essential Guide To Handle Any Size During a BJ: Tips & Techniques By Size!
It’s a well know fact that not all penises are the same size. Long, short, thick, thin, cut, uncut – there are many combinations of penis size and appearance. Some penises are extra large or super small and these factors greatly influence how you will handle a blowjob.
Techniques vary for different size penises and knowing some tricks of the trade is also helpful. No matter what size your partner’s penis is – the most important thing to remember is to have fun. But, we also want to a make sure you're prepared to please him, so here are some helpful hints for handling any size penis like a blowjob pro!
By Shorter Penis Length
You may think that having a partner who is smaller in the penis department will make a blowjob easier, but this is not always the case and actually can make it harder. If a penis is under the average size – let’s say under 3 inches – it may be hard to get close enough to the body to suck him all in.
Plus, the shorter the length of the penis, the less surface that gets stimulated via the mouth during a blowjob if you can’t get all of him in. Or, there can be difficulty in using hands in combination with the mouth because there is just not enough penis to go around!
The goal here is to get as much of his penis into your mouth as possible and alternate hand strokes with the deep sucks. The trick is to find a position that will allow you to deep throat him. This may mean the standard between the legs technique.
You want to “pull” his penis into your mouth with your mouth, as opposed to your hands, getting all of it into your mouth. Then suck, hard yet gently, paying attention to his balls at the same time. You can alternate this sucking with stroking – but you likely will not be able to stroke and suck at the same time, as there will simply not be enough surface space.
Key Takeaway:
- Try to get all of him in your mouth
- Alternate between using hands & deep sucks
- Find a comfortable position to deep throat
- Pull his penis into your mouth, using your mouth
- Don't neglect the balls
By Longer Penis Length
The average penis size is 4-5 inches erect; penises of 8 inches or longer are considered above average. Longer penises pose the issue of being able to stimulate ALL of the shaft in a satisfying manner. Especially if you cannot deep throat him and get him all the way into your mouth and throat.
In order to properly stimulate a longer penis you need to utilize your mouth, throat AND your hands, too. Even if you can deep throat him properly he will still need further stimulation in order to feel properly attended to.
The trick is to get the penis extremely slick with saliva in order to seamlessly stimulate him with your hands as well as your mouth. Alternate sliding him down into your throat while wrapping your hand around his penis shaft and stroking, licking and sucking continuously.
Take a few times to sink him down into your throat if you can, and use your hands to supplement the area that won’t fit into your mouth / throat. The key is to make it COHESIVE – so he can almost not tell where your hands end and your mouth begins.
Key Takeaway:
- Use your mouth, throat, and hands
- Get his penis super slick with saliva
- Alternate sliding down your throat & stroking with your hands
- Lick and suck continuously
By Thick Girth
It is not just length that is different, it is also the girth – or width – of the penis. Some men are quite wide which can actually be a bigger obstacle when giving a blowjob than length because your mouth will only open up so wide. In fact, not all women can open their mouths widely – and when you can’t open your mouth wide you run the chance of teeth slippage. OUCH!
So, how do you handle a penis that is wider than the average? Firstly, go slow. Let your mouth adjust to his girth. Do not try to just shove it down inside. Relax your lips! Tense lips do not stretch, so you need to be relaxed as you take him in. Tease it and see exactly how wide you will have to open your mouth.
Secondly, find a comfortable position to accept him. Sideways may not be the best option, so go for a straight on approach such as kneeling. This will allow you to relax your lips and open more widely as well as control those teeth!
Thirdly, use your hands. Some men actually get wider at the root (closer to the balls) so it may be hard to get all of him into your mouth, especially if he is gifted in the length department as well. Whatever you do, do not overextend your mouth in an effort to get him in as this may cause pain in the jaw joints.
Work as much into your mouth as you can, using stronger suction to replace being able to get him down your throat as far. Supplement with a well-slicked hand to stroke and please what portions of him are not in your mouth. Oh, and if you decide to try and deep throat him, be wary to not damage your throat by placing him too far in and causing pain.
Key Takeaway:
- Go slow, tease, and allow your mouth to adjust to the size
- Find a comfortable position for giving a blowjob
- Relax your lips & control your teeth
- Use your hands
- Avoid overextending your mouth
By Thin Girth
Believe it or not having a man who is not as gifted in girth can actually be harder to please orally. Why? Our mouths are fairly large so placing something smaller in it means we have to concentrate on wrapping our lips around it and suck harder to get the desired effect.
Compare it to sucking on a Popsicle versus a double Popsicle – which one gets more tension via your lips? The double Popsicle. As the Popsicle melts, you have to work harder and close your mouth more in order to suck it appropriately, as well as to mind those teeth!
So when your guy is not very thick you need to really concentrate on that suction. Use your tongue to caress him and stimulate him and also use your mouth suction to really provide the needed surface stimulation. You will also want to use your hands but make sure you are encircling his shaft tightly enough to give him some good stroking. The last thing you want is to have the circle of your hand not really stroking him at all.
Key Takeaway:
- Use lots of suction
- Caress with your tongue
- Use your hands for a good stroke
By Long AND Thick - Challenge Accepted!
If your man won the penis lottery and is gifted with a penis which is longer than standard (8 plus inches) AND wider than average then you may have your work cut out for you. Giving a blowjob to a guy who has these attributes is extremely fun, but it does take some skill and compromise.
Firstly, accept that you may not be able to get it ALL in. Yes, you want to try, but when we can’t, we just can’t! Secondly, be relaxed. If you are tense and worried then your facial muscles are going to stiffen and you will not be able to get him into your mouth comfortably.
Thirdly, use all the tricks in your arsenal! Use your mouth, tongue, lips, throat and hands! You have to remember that the key to a good blowjob is creating friction between your mouth / hands / throat and his penis. This will take all of your concentration and adaptation.
Go slowly, use the method of teasing to get him worked up. Test yourself to see how far he will go into your mouth and down your throat. Supplement with different hand motions and strokes. Make sure you have enough lubrication to make all things slide smoothly so that it is a fluid feeling.
Make sure you are in a position that offers maximum penetration – usually on knees with head bent. This allows you to control the action as well. Being able to control depth and speed and such will be very important in this situation. Once you have all of these aspects aligned, it is time to begin.
Key Takeaway:
- Know you may not be able to take all of him in
- Reduce tension and relax
- Create friction with your mouth, tongue, lips, throat, and your hands!
- Go slow, tease, and work him up
- Use plenty of lube
- Get in position with maximum control
I’m a mature married man, and a closeted bisexual. I enjoy sex with my wife very much but it is infrequent. Since high school I fantasized about sucking cock, and unfortunately due to shyness and social pressure, I kept it to myself. At the age of 45, I met a likeminded divorced guy with more experience and became a devoted cocksucker and cumlover. Over the years I’ve had maybe a dozen other guys. Most of them only wanted me to give them head, and that was fine with me. I could easily cum just stroking while I swallowed their loads. I have maintained my original relationship with the divorced friend and our ardor has only increased over the years. He’s pretty well hung and a joy to have in my mouth. As a result I think I have a real thing for really thick cocks. Recently a local guy contacted me through Silver Daddies to hook up for a no strings no reciprocation blowjob. His cock is huge and I am planning to meet him. I told him I don’t deep throat (as if) and he said no problem; he finds that if his cumdump works the top 3 to 4 inches and uses a hand to stroke the lower part of the shaft, he gets off just fine. From the looks of his pic, I might need two hands. As long as one focuses on keeping the teeth from abrading the shaft when you are head bobbing on a fat cock, things generally go well. I also find that taking the head into the back of the throat stimulates the salivary glands, especially if you intentionally choke a little. That translates into more lube for the suckee’s cock. An aside: he says he’s a “heavy cummer”, and when I asked if he shot more than a mouthful, he said the better the blowjob, the bigger the load. I told him I hope he fuckin’ drowns me.
Okay, so last night we’re sitting on the couch watching a little tv, I make a move to do a little stroking and before you know it, I’ve gone for a cushion, lay it on the floor in front of him and spend some quality time with his penis, licking and tickling till he comes in my mouth. Love playing this role as he is a little surprised every time I try something not quite so in tune with our lifestyle and l enjoy giving him a blow job more and more each time it happens.
I am 69 years old and still enjoy a very active sex life, in part because of a great partner. I developed ed and was forced to have a pump installed. When this happened I figured a good blowjob was gonna be tough to get. My great partner has adapted very well. She has learned to get me very wet, use her tongue around the head and shaft. She will then plunge me deep into her throat or just take me halfway in. She has learned to keep her teeth out of the way(painful when in the way)and make every thing very smooth. Thank God for a wonderful woman.
Practice is the number one thing. Giving head is personally my most favorite thing. My husband loves it. Take your time. I try to make it last a long time. 30 minutes to an hour. You won’t last that long if you are constantly sucking and deep throating. Licking it from tip to balls. Like I said take your time. All guys are different. Deep throating is not a big thing to my man. I do it a little each time. You are in control and loving it is very pleasing to him. Good ideas were giving in the article. Just wanted to chime in.
What is with everything being about deep throating? Not everyone can or wants to have a penis down their throat. Not everyone wants their penis in someone’s throat? This isn’t a very realistic approach to human sexuality, it’s obviously not inclusive, and it’s certainly not sex positive. Every post about fellatio is all about deep throating. It’s ridiculous! Enough people, especially women, have so many inhibitions about giving and/or receiving oral sex, and this is a big part of why. One part of society has made oral sex taboo. The other part insists deep throating must be part of it and if you can’t or won’t do that, you’re doing it wrong. No wonder men assume every woman deep throats! It’s all over porn and anything read by both genders is obsessed with deep throating. Why can their not be a realistic discussion about this? Instead, just get a numbing spray. Who cares if one or both partners are uncomfortable, at least you’re having oral!
I’m done with this blog and finding a new store.
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