The Importance Between Oral Sex & a Healthy Relationship: These 6 Reasons Make Oral Even More Worth it
In fact, for some oral sex happens rarely if ever at all. There are various reasons for this lack of oral participation, and some are quite valid; but the truth is, oral is an important part of sex. Why? Why is this activity important, especially if you are having “regular” intercourse? Read on.
1. It Feels Good
Alright, this one is so obvious that you probably let out an audible "DUH!", but I felt it needed to be said. Oral sex is important because it feels amazing and is a completely different sensation than any other sexual endeavor. Nothing against penetrative sex, but oral sex has this magical power that feels like it is taking you into a whole different galaxy.
2. Many People NEED Oral To Orgasm
Upwards of 85% of all clit-owners NEED clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. The most effective way to deliver that stimulation is during oral sex! Not to mention giving your partner an orgasm or two before sex will lubricate them and make them more eager and ready for intercourse. Not only do vagina-owners benefit from oral sex, but so do penis-owners. A pre-sex BJ can help to get your partner all ready to go!
3. It Helps To Mix Things Up
When it comes to sex, I think we are all eventually going to be looking for a way to mix things up a bit - and oral is a perfect way to do just that. Oral is a completely different experience than penetrative anal or vaginal sex. You can also mix things up within oral. By that I mean, maybe bring in a bullet vibrator to rub on your partner's nipples while you're going down on them or insert a vibrating butt plug right before oral begins.
4. It Can Be Very Intimate
When receiving oral from a partner, it's very common to feel vulnerable. Making eye contact, communicating your needs, asking for what you want - these can all be very intimidating. But, when you do this you are deepening your connection with your partner. Also, your partner is putting their own needs aside and taking the time to make sure YOU feel good. There's nothing more intimate than someone putting their own sexual needs on the backburner for a while, while they take care of you.
5. Foreplay Means More Play
Oral sex can fall under the larger category of “foreplay” as it sometimes happens before intercourse. It's usually one of the first activities most couples engage in. Then, they move into penetrative sex. But what if instead of following that usual ritual, you went back and forth and back and forth. Moving from oral to sex and back to oral means you have longer play and MORE orgasms are possible. Doesn’t that sound wonderfully fun? A little oral sex can go a long, long way – and it can lead to more amazing and connected sex!
6. You Deserve It! (And so does your partner!)
Now, here's another one that I think is obvious (or I hope it is anyways). Oral sex is important because your partner deserves that 1:1 time you are giving to them. That time you are spending specifically to make sure they are pleasured. Especially if this is one of (or THE) only ways they can actually orgasm. Don't you think they deserve that amazing head you're giving them? And trust me, if you put in the effort to give them the oral you deserve - it will be reciprocated.
My wife’s interest in oral has declined because the sensations of air pulsation toys are much more pleasurable to her than anything I can do orally. Oh, she likes it when I suck on her clit and keep licking it. But, she doesn’t climax to this. I read a Cosmo review of Womanizer air pulsation products that said: “It’s like someone going down on you — but ten times better!” Sure enough, when I use one of those toys on her she comes 50 to 100 times before we’re through with it. And I LOVE to please her any way she wants.
Oral sex is a very important part of sex life. i love opening a woman legs and eating her pussy her ass until she cums all in and on my face. Oh i take my teeth out and gum her pussy
My wife is 56, I’m 66 my wife has stopped giving anything she says it doesn’t interest her anymore, even knowing she is relieving herself with her favorite vibrator toy every couple of weeks. When I ask all, I get are excuses (Tired, has to work the next day) I have ED and can’t get an erection, but I still get Horney and finding myself masturbating to take the tension away. I love her dearly but very frustrated with the whole situation.
Been married for over 26 years now and I always want to give my beautiful wife oral but she never wants me to give it to her. I try and try but no luck. She says that she doesn’t want it and I know she needs it. So what can I do to get her to allow me to please her?
So sad to hear that women are expected to give oral, yet don’t receive it. It took me a bit to get use to it but now love to eat out my wife and happens often.
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