9 Kinky Ideas To Try In The Bedroom Tonight
If you're reading this, you're probably here for one reason. You're looking for ideas to spice up sex with your partner. And just to clarify, that's not a bad thing nor does it mean that your sex has gotten boring. It just means you're looking for new sexy ideas and that means you've most likely got a healthy sexual relationship already. So, below I've put together 9 kinky ideas you can try tonight!
1. Temperature Play
Experimenting with cold and hot sensations is one of the best ways to spice up normal foreplay. The body reacts to a cold touch and nipples become erect, stomach muscles tighten, a clitoris gets tight and hard, testicles shrink and a penis becomes aroused.
Conversely, a body reacts equally well to a warm touch. Muscles relax, cold nipples thaw, a clitoris engorges with blood and a penis becomes aroused. Using ice cubes, cooling gels, warming gels; all of these can help enhance and step up your foreplay. Whether it is "freaky" to use ice on your lover; well, that is up to you.
2. Try Your Roleplay Fantasy
Roleplay is always an easy way to turn a typical sexy night into a kinky night where you're leaning into one of your fantasies. Play out that teacher & student fantasy or that doctor & patient fantasy. Adding some sexy lingerie to the mix is always a bonus but there are fantasies you can explore if you don't have time to prepare.
An example of this is the masseuse & the client. Fully act it out. Have your lover enter the room and pretend you've never met before they get naked and lie down on the "massage table", which will most likely be your bed. Then you can use your imagination and turn it into an erotic, sexy massage your lover will never forget.
3. Tie Them Up
A great way to make a sexy night even kinkier is to tie your lover up (with their permission, of course) and take control of their pleasure. If you don't have handcuffs or a restraint set, that's totally fine. I'm sure somewhere in your closet you've got a belt or a tie, use that instead!
If you like to be dominant and your lover is more on the submissive side, tying them up is going to be a sexy and erotic experience. You get to do whatever you want to them and tease them with pleasure until they just can't handle it anymore. And of course, always used a safe word in situations like this.
4. Pull Out The Blindfold
Another great idea is to blindfold your lover. When one of our senses is taken away, all of our other senses are heightened. So, when you blindfold your lover, every touch that they feel will be extra stimulating.
Same thing goes for this one, if you don't have an actual blindfold hanging around then you can simply use a tie or a scarf. Grab the scarf and (again, with permission) tie it around your partner's head. From there you can do whatever comes to mind. You can tease them with light touches, do a sexy taste test with foods or edible lubes, you can pull out a sex toy and tease them with it, the options are endless here! Just be sure to keep that safe word handy.
5. Start Talkin' Dirty
If you and your lover aren't already talking dirty to each other in bed, then tonight's the night to start! Talking dirty to your lover can be an absolutely stimulating addition to your sex life. A little well placed dirty talk (or even dirty texting) can amp up sex to a new level.
A few dirty talking tips: be descriptive, ask questions, tell your lover what you're going to do to them and don't forget that using one liners like "harder" or "faster" still counts as dirty talk. Just ease your way into it, the more you do it, the more comfortable you will get.
6. Resist The Orgasm
This one might sound like something you wouldn't enjoy, but just bear with me here. When you push off your orgasm until later in the sex session, it's actually going to be even better. This is typically referred to as edging.
Have your partner give you oral (or whatever makes you personally cum easiest) and just as you're about to orgasm, let them know. That way your partner can stop doing what they're doing just as you're about to cum. Once you've calmed down, have them restart and continue this process a few times until you reach your final climax.
7. Masturbate Together
If you've never done this before then it is going to take some confidence, but mutual masturbation is an incredibly sexy experience. You don't have to talk about it ahead of time, you can surprise your lover with this. Tell them to meet you upstairs and when they enter the room, they'll see you naked on the bed pleasuring yourself.
From there, you can continue masturbating for them or they can sit across the room and start pleasuring themselves at the same time. It is really sexy to watch your partner please themselves and not only that, you may also learn a few things from watching what they do.
8. Watch Porn Together
I know sometimes this topic can be awkward to bring up because you may be nervous your partner won't be into it, but it really is at least worth talking about. Watching porn with your lover can be a very sexy experience and it will also allow you to connect on a deeper level together.
The article linked below dives into the reasons you should watch porn together, as well as how to communicate with them about this desire.
9. Try Some Anal Stimulation
If you haven't leaned into the anal play world at all, now is a good time to start! I don't mean you have to go straight into the deep end but you can simply start with some rimming. Rimming is the act of using your tongue to stimulate your lover's anal opening. This can create an amazing sensation for the receiver. If that feels good, then move onto some finger play. Just be sure to always use anal lube when inserting something into the anal canal!
If you have already leaned into anal play and are looking to explore even more. Then perhaps, if you are looking to be the receiver but your partner doesn't have a penis, you could try pegging. This means that your lover would wear a strap-on dildo and use it to anally penetrate you. If this is something that sounds amazing to you, you shouldn't feel any type of embarrassment whatsoever. This is a completely normal and common type of sexual play and you should never be ashamed of having this desire. If you are interest in this, below I have provided a link to the best strap on for starting out.
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I absolutely love anal stimulation. My wife has started doing it to me. Using her finger while giving me a blowjob is fantastic. I recently purchased some new toys that I will introducing to our love making and can’t wait.
Pegging is great. For men, it stimulates the prostate, which heightens orgasms. For women, it can provide heightened stimulation during vaginal penetration with fingers, dildo, or penis. In a male-female relationship, it gives the woman a way to take control and the man to submit. Vibrating dildos and bullets add sensations.
For beginners, it’s good to start slow and small, and with lots of lube. Using anal plugs helps you warm up to the idea and to prep your anus for bigger and better things. Sex toy sites offer many harnesses that accept dildos of all sizes. Consider the shorts-style harnesses, which are simpler to put on, and don’t shift during use.
Remember to relax, be patient, have fun, and talk about what you want, and how it went.
Angela,
This is a little bit embarrassing for me, but what the hell, it DOES feel good and we only live once, right? I’m interested in “pegging”, my new wife was a nurse and suggested that we possibly try it if I was interested. She has used her fingers to stimulate me while giving me blowjobs in the past and I admit that I really enjoyed it, so it is definitely an intriguing and enticing idea. My question for you is this….are there special “thinner” strap-ons available for beginners in pegging? The dildos and strap-ons made for women are just too big in circumference for me, but we really want to try this. Please help Kathii and I figure out what to do about this kinky conundrum.
Thank-you;
Sincerely Brian and Kathii
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